My boyfriend and I met five years ago. We were in college at the time, but eventually he dropped out, which meant the relationship was on hold for a year until I graduated. Once I did, we were back together in the city where we're both from.
A month after we were together again, he got a job opportunity in another state, which means we were back at square one: Distance. This man is my best friend. And I do want to be with him.
For the past month, we've discussed me moving to where he now lives. Before making the decision, I wanted to talk to my boss. During the one-on-one, my boss offered me a promotion (only three months into the job!), and it broke my heart because it's my dream job. He could transfer me to an office in the state where my boyfriend lives, but I'd have to start over in the pipeline in that office. No promotion. If anything, it'd be a demotion because it's a smaller office.
I've gone from "ready to move" to "hold up I need to rethink this!" My thoughts: My family is here. My dad is getting older. I'm getting the promotion of my dreams right now. But ... I love this man beyond words and I want to marry him. I can't see myself without him. We have been through so much together to get to this point.
He says he is done with the distance, and it's either I move there or this relationship is over. I know this will be the man I marry but he is running out of patience and wants me to move in two months. I can't sleep. He isn't willing to move back home. It's his way or the highway and I don't know what to do.
*example letter from Love Letters